I will be happy when I lose X amount …
I will be more confident when I am size X …
They will like me better if I weigh X much …
We as a society put too much pressure to be a certain weight/size. We give too much time to weight and let it control what we do and don’t do. Happiness is associated with weight goals, attaching our worth to a physical change in our bodies. It isn’t your fault, if this your current mindset please don’t blame yourself. It has been a message the media has been pushing through the ages. Size equals acceptance, size equals health, size X is better than size Y. And its all utter BS in my opinion, there is so much more to you than what you weigh or look like.
All bodies are amazing and no body deserves to be shamed. The body shaming to others or to ourselves has never helped any body. All it does is make someone feel crap about themselves, where is the good in that. I want you to understand that whatever physical changes you make to your body are for you and you alone to decide. But please don’t think that a number on a scale defines who you are or how healthy you are.
You may gain or lose weight over time, your body is likely to change and that’s normal. We are human and ever changing. As we age our bodies change that is science, we grow and develop. We are not meant to have the body we had 10 years ago because that was then and this is now. You are no less of a person because your body changed shape/size. Especially us women, our bodies literally change week to week as does our weight. Which is why it isn’t worth the stress or negative thoughts.
Do you know what defines your worth? That would be who you are. It’s what do you as a person, what are you sharing with the world. Ask yourself what are you like as a friend and loved one? YOU define your worth because YOU are a person not a body. A number on a scale doesn’t do that.
Your confidence won’t suddenly appear because you make physical changes to your body. I can guarantee as well from experience that it also won’t make you happy. Instead you will push for the next change because you haven’t worked on what’s in your head. You need to spend the time working out why you feel the need to change. Working out what the root cause of your negative body image issues are, starting to create processes to cope with these thoughts.
If you find that you need to weigh yourself to feel something for your body can I ask that you try and remove the scales from your reach. Instead of stepping on them, break away and try to keep yourself away from them. Get the numbers out of your head and create space for other more positive things.
The number on the scale will not tell you:
How much you are loved
What sort of person you are
That you are strong, smart, amazing and unique
That you are in control of your happiness and deserve it all
Switch the focus from weight to how you feel in general. How are you feeling physically? What’s your mood like? How do feel mentally? Do you feel happy? By tuning into your intuition and listening to your body over time you will come to know what you feel. You will find your happiness isn’t controlled by numbers, it’s controlled by what you do, feel, surround yourself with and be.
Whether you’re in a small body, tall body, thin body, thick body, fat body, skinny body, athletic body you are worthy. Whether you have thick thighs, thigh gap, big bum, small bum, big boobs, small boobs or no boobs you are worthy. You are no less of a real woman because you are slim or have no curves. You are no less of an athlete because you don’t have a certain % body fat or visible abs.
Looking a certain way does not determine who you are. What you do with your body and self will do that. Repeat after me: WHAT I WEIGH DOES NOT DEFINE MY WORTH AS A PERSON and keep doing it until you truly believe it!
